Being in a relationship with the emotionally wounded
How to be in relationships with someone who has trust issues
A. Make a decision. Are you in or out?
B. If you are out, you need an exit plan that will minimize emotional injury
C. If you are in:
1. Be clear about why and make sure the reasons are healthy
2. Set healthy boundaries
a. What are the deal breakers? What cant you tolerate if you are going to be in this relationship?
b. If there are things that you don’t wish tolerate but will tolerate it, how long will you tolerate it?
c. How will you know that it’s time to stop tolerating the behaviors that you don’t like?
3. What happened to cause your lover to become so suspicious and controlling?
A. Was it you?
B. Was it an ex-lover?
C. Did something g happen to them during there childhood?
D. is there a mental health condition involved?
Here are few more suggestions:
Expect the controlling behaviors to decrease over time.
Communicate this expectation clearly.
Be patient. It wont happen over night.
Decide how compliant you will be with your lover’s demand for transparency, compliance with disclosing your whereabouts and activities, monitoring of your devices and installed locators.
Couple’s counseling is suggested
