Month: February 2015

Who are the bullies? We can vilify them or we can understand them.

It has long been understood that people who bully others are emotionally damaged. Social learning begins at birth. Through day to day experiences and interaction with others, a child begins to form a worldview. Abuse and neglect do cause emotional damage and this damage can begin as early as infancy. The family of origin is where the child learns social skills and develops his or her worldview. Imagine the worldview of a child who grows up in an abusive or neglectful home.

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What is procrastination and why do people do it?

Procrastination is a complex psychological issue. It is marked by avoidant behavior that appears to be about delaying. The appearance is deceptive in that delay is construed as being something positive or a better alternative to doing it now. However, when delaying is clearly not beneficial, is costly, producing a negative outcome for the delayer, or contributes to stress for one’s self or others, it is then, simply avoidance and procrastination.

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Being in a relationship with the emotionally wounded

How to be in relationships with someone who has trust issues A. Make a decision.  Are you in or out? B. If you are out, …

Couples have conflicts over cell phone activity. What does it mean?

When one member of the couple spends a lot of time on social media, answering text messages and phone calls and the other …

Who are the bullies? We can vilify them or we can understand them.

It has long been understood that people who bully others are emotionally damaged. Social learning begins at birth. Through …